The Queen AND the Vagabond

There is a gamut of ways people will treat you no matter what you say or do. To land in the AND is to be emotionally healthy in your community.

The Queen

I don’t really know what this one is like but I am sure some of you do. You are treated like a queen in some of your circles.

When you walk in the room, everyone stops talking to pay close attention to what you are going to say or do. They don’t physically bow but they have done it emotionally.

You have and take authority over what is happening and how it is happening. Queens can be bullies, in this hierarchy of treatment, or they can be generous. It all depends on how they want people to treat them.

The Vagabond

This one I know well. I am ignored by my sisters and my feelings are ignored by my parents. I am the vagabond in my family and some social circles.

You might know this feeling too. You attend events and no one sits with you. You go to help work and they put you alone in your work.

You can hear others having fun but you are never included. Vagabonds can choose to draw away from Church family or they can remain to be God’s servant. It all depends on how they want people to treat them.

AND

This is really where I lie in the gap between queen and vagabond — AND. I don’t ever remember being treated as queen but know what it look like to be treated as a vagabond.

I am not treated like a queen in any of my social circles. No one has so much respect for me that they are not afraid to tell me I am wrong or to stop me in my tracks with a word.

I am sure there are plenty of people who will have nothing to do with me because of who I am but mostly it is in my own imagination that I am a vagabond.

I don’t have a slew of close friends who are at my side all the time. I don’t have a best friend. I don’t have a group of women I go out for coffee with monthly. I could make this happen but I don’t for fear of being hurt again.

I am safe. I am accepting. I am honest. I am a staunch Jesus follower. I have things I definitely need to work on. I am an emotionally healthy Christian. I am effective in my ministry. I am in love with life.

AND…

I am intimidating. I am devoted to the truth about me and you. I am steadfast when I set my mind to something. I am brash sometimes. I am loud sometimes. I am right sometimes. My mind is my own. I am convicted all the time. I am repentant to the Lord and you. I am not dumb or easily deceived.

I want people to treat me like an “AND” but sometimes they will treat me like a Vagabond because I don’t treat them like a “Queen”. When my ministry is in full swing, I am sure women will treat me like a queen until they get to know me better. 

My Visionary Living Advice 💦 for this week is to be comfortable being treated as a queen and as a vagabond but set your face to be treated like an “AND” every where you go.